“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened”
Day 17 (of my 30 days to sobriety) is again revisiting things I know. I am not meaning to sound like a know-it-all. It is just I have worked and read in personal development for many moons and lots of it is same. That does not mean it is not powerful and useful to think of it all in this new context. I just have to be careful not to go – oh yeah I know that …. next. Because that is not ‘working the steps’.
Todays learnings come out of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (although they don’t say so exactly). We are challenged to look at our negative thinking traps and specifically, where relevant in relation to booze.
Here they are:
- Perfectionism (guilt as charged your honour)
- Negative Labelling (I am weak, a drunk, a loser, unlovable)
- Generalizing (I never stick to my health promises, unit allowance etc.)
- Deletion (removing things from your memory bank to suit, especially the bad things about drinking)
- Jumping to conclusions
- Exaggeration/Minimization (This is the worst thing ever!)
- Should statements
- Personalisation (it’s not all about you mate)
- Mind reading (you suck at it – don’t do it)
My personal light bulbs today were noticing I am pretty bad at 1, 3,6,7, and 9. That is pretty ambitious huh? Also realising that in conflict I am always assuming the worst response from the other person. In truth I get angry at the other persons response before they have even demonstrated it. Ouch.
Tomorrow we are on to Affirmations – which I have reservations about already. Wish me luck, see you there.