Welcome to day 5 of my 30 days to sobriety.
The focus of today was believing in yourself and your ability to succeed.
My key learnings were to banish “I can’t” language and to look for my own confirmation biases.
Confirmation bias is where you look for information that supports your belief and ignore what doesn’t. So basically being a typical human.
Recently – I listened eagerly to the nurse that said as long as I have two alcohol-free days a week, my estrogen levels will drop back, lowering my breast cancer risk. I was on the verge of quitting Dry May and asking her to join me for a glass of wine. As much as I am hoping she is right; if I don’t consider other information – I am demonstrating confirmation bias.
I must confess
I had something of an unfair advantage today. I got to drive to a stunning semi rural beach town on the edge of Auckland (shown in the photo), that I did not know existed, to meet a hypnotherapist called Lyndsay. The experience was honestly nicer than a glass of wine. I am interested to see if this new support makes the coming days easier to manage.
We took a broader approach than just focusing on booze. An approach that affirmed confidence, letting go, being in the moment … and lots of good stuff that was aligned with the content of the 30-day programme. Lyndsay was also kind enough to record the session, so I have it to support me for the next 30 days and when/if I return to moderate drinking.
Of course, when I succeed I won’t be able to say if it was Lyndsay or the 30 days or both, because it is not good scientific method to try two interventions at one time. Despite my passion for science, I care more about my health and my success at this big goal of transforming my relationship with alcohol.
See you tomorrow x
Photo: Maraetai Wharf