Just For Today: Do not be angry
Part of my journey in Reiki training is to get in touch with the five principles of Reiki, namely:
- Do not be angry
- Do not worry
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Express ones Gratitude
- Be diligent in work
I read these principles in my Reiki training manual and was like … yeah…yeah …. sure … of course …. next. In my recent sit down with my trainer, in her gentle way, she talked me through the key bit. JUST FOR TODAY. I am shouting at you now, that is presumably not terribly aligned with the Reiki way; however, I think you heard me.
… Just for Today …
Isn’t it something – how a tiny shift in focus can change the entire meaning?
A woman without her man is nothing.
A woman, without her, man is nothing!
So it was for me with Uli telling me exactly what I had read and me getting something entirely different, yet more useful and more accurate. The key is don’t try to shoot for the moon, for life, for transformation. Just aim for today. JUST FOR TODAY.
As I am simultaneously working through the Chronic pain Anonymous Steps, it all feels like grist to the mill. One day at a time … I am on it … accept that I am not at all really.
The goal is to take each principle and give it a week-ish. Clearly one shouldn’t be too prescriptive about the week because then it is “Just for a week” and that does not have the same spiritual kudos at all – does it?
I’m glad I did not try “Just for Today; Do not be Angry” yesterday when the neighbor over the back would not let the kids in my yard go over and play because some of them were indigenous kids. Me and Mrs DoNotBeAngry were not good pals yesterday …. let me tell you!
So just for today I am going to try not to be angry…. and keep the kids away from the back fence.
A week-ish later
How did I do? I managed to get through PMT with no screaming matches. I also got through two days of rice and eggs (preparing for breath testing for SIBO) with no tea or wine without screaming or crying. It was not easy.
I did regret making my “do not be angry” post it notes, which my 10 year old put around the house. The result of which was my partner saying every five minutes “Do not be Angry!” … which made me a teeny bit angry muahahaha.
Something I don’t like about the phrasing is the negative focus. In my coaching and training work I always encouraged people to phrase in the positive due to some training I attended by this great guy. So I will customize it a bit and frame it in the positive …. the problem is trying to find an exact opposite to Angry: there really isn’t a clear one.
Instead I have cheated and jumped a day or two early to “do not worry”. Which I will make “Just for today: Remain calm”. I feel that is the principle calling to me more just now.
What are you trying – Just for Today?
Meanwhile as the new year rushes upon us – go well in the direction of today,
Yours as Ever,
Resources and Links
My Lovely Reiki Trainer – Uli
New Zealand Based Consultant Ross Gilmore – helping you and your work team understand mental models and the power of the language you use:
My blogs on Reiki: what it is, the science etc start here